Your Body Belongs To You | 请不要随便摸我
Author: Cornelia Spelman / Illustrator: Teri Weidner
Translated from: United States
Written positively and structured in a simple yet reassuring way with wonderful illustrations, therapist Cornelia Spelman explains that a child's body is his or her own and that it is all right for children to decline a friendly hug or kiss, even from someone they love. It also sensitively tells children that there are some places that nobody should touch and if someone does, they should tell their parents or a trusted adult immediately.
A good book for preschoolers to introduce them to the idea that they are in control of the body and they have the right to say that they don't want to be touched, hugged, or kissed. A gentle and empowering read about touch, this book is an age-appropriate introduction to an important subject. Physical and sexual abuse among children is not something that is commonly acknowledged or talked about. This book presents the issue of sexual abuse in a non-threatening and easy to comprehend manner for young children. The take-home message of the book is to enable the children to trust what they think and feel. It is important for children to be empowered in this way because it gives them the building blocks for setting boundaries and teaching them that they have complete control over their own body and no one, even adults, has a right to force them to comply with unwanted physical contact.
The book also encourages open discourse between parent and child and fosters an open relationship where a child can feel comfortable about talking about uncomfortable situations and feelings. The relationship that the book clearly advocates for is one where the child can seek safety and reassurance from the parent and should never feel ashamed in consulting their advice.
This is definitely one of the must-have books for every growing child to help him or her build skills from an early age about trusting your gut feeling if something feels wrong. Suitable for 2yo and up.
- Recommended Age: 2 to 5 years old
- Product Material: Hardcover
- Language: Simplified Chinese
- Pages: 20 per book
Daddy's friend came to visit and he wants to give me a friendly peck. But I don't want it. Will daddy think I'm not a good boy?
It's ok to say "No, not now. I don't want the kiss".
It's bedtime and mummy hugged and kissed me goodnight. I returned her hug and kiss because I love mummy and I like doing that.
Yes, it's ok! You can tell mummy you like to hug and kiss mummy because you love her.
There are times when I need help during shower or changing of clothes or when I am seeing a doctor. But there is this uncle who wants to hug me, I don't like it and I am scared!
Don't be scared. Be brave and say "No! Please don't touch me!" Unless you need help, no one should touch those areas where you cover up in your swim suit. Your body belongs to you.
My mummy's friend finds me cute and wants to touch my face, but I don't feel like it right now and I don't know how to say no....
Don't worry! You have the rights to accept or reject any physical touch and let your feelings be known. You can also tell your parents about how you feel. A true friend will understand and respect your wishes and you will still be good friends.